Going through a divorce that you do not want could be one of the most trying times in your life. While marriage counseling may be an option, New Jersey residents do not need their spouse’s consent to file for a divorce. If your spouse decides he or she does not want to try again, you must prepare yourself and show up mentally for the divorce. If it is no longer possible to save your marriage, the best thing you can do is accept what is happening.

According to FindLaw, a divorce can take anywhere from a few months to several years from start to finish. On average, a divorce will take around a year to complete. That may sound like forever, but there are many necessary steps involved. Evaluating and dividing assets takes time. Determining custody matters such as visitation and parenting time can be a lengthy process. This is especially true if you and your spouse do not agree on everything.

If the two of you do not agree, you have a contested divorce. You must go through a discovery process where you and your spouse will request evidence for court review. Sensitive and personal information may come to light. Try not to let your emotions get the better of you, no matter what your spouse reveals. But do not forget to consider yourself and your own needs. What you want from the divorce is relevant, too.

Do your best to make peace with your spouse. This difficult time is hard for everyone. Remember that the only thing to do now is to move forward.